Good morning my loves! ♡
Welcome to another blog post! If you are new here my name is Eden and I am a beauty fashion and lifestyle blogger from the UK and I really hope you all enjoy my blog!❤
Today's post is going to be another one of my positive chats which is where I talk about lots of different subjects hopefully to help lots of my followers out. Or hopefully to give some advice or guidance in some way but I am in no way a councillor or someone professionally trained in giving advice. Today I am talking about the 2 words that are so so iconic but wrongly used ' NO OFFENCE'. Enjoy the post! 😌
These words first of all personally annoy me so much. I can remember first hearing it when I was about 8 or 9. I found that as time went on if people said that to me and then said what they didn't want to be offensive, almost every time I felt offended and I just didn't get why. I seriously thought that people didn't mean to it want to offend me. But as I've grown older and got wiser I've realised that those 2 words mean nothing. The comment you say after has the lasting effect and will offend people.
Don't say no offence if you are planning to say something offensive or horrible. What is the point in even saying no offence if you plan to offend the person after. Don't say the comment at all is the bet option than you never have to use it, I hate offending people when I don't mean to but I never say no offence before because I try to not say anything that I purposely want to offend people with.
Words truly hurt as we have discussed before. I know all of my followers are such nice and lovely people and would never mean to offend anyone. Everyone makes mistakes and I know that and it's okay to make those mistakes. But please if you are thinking something offensive please just keep it in your head and if you can't just say it out loud and think about how you would feel if someone said that to you.
Of course if you have to be honest about your friend in a dress or your dads new shirt that's okay. Being honest is the best thing ' honestly is the best policy' and if it saves someone that you care about from embarrassing themselves or getting comments said about them that is very important and I applaud you all for being honest.
If you take anything away from this blog post then please let it be that honesty is the best policy and that offending people isn't a very nice thing whether you are saying. Even if it is a constructive way choose your word carefully and I'm not going to lie my mouth is ahead of my brain sometimes and I say things that are mean and that I regret but trust me an apology can make all the difference and can mean a lot to people. Also forgiveness is a really important factor in this as if people truly didn't mean to offend you it is healthier all round to forgive and forget. I know it's not easy but think about if you are in that situation would you be upset because you had said something you regret and then the other person hadn't forgiven you? I definitely would be and people have forgiven me for having a big mouth and it's okay. It is okay to make mistakes I hope you all understand that.
No offence is something I supposed is quite a controversial subject and I may get some hate for writing this post but this is a subject that I believe needs to be talked about and I want to kind of educate people.
I hope this post has helped people because that it what I aim to do with my positive chats series and if there is any posts you would like to see in this series let me know as I really love writing these posts!
Thank you all for your continual support it means the world to me I can't even comprehend. Keep smiling and happy! ☺️💙