Hey everyone! ♡
Happy April! Can you believe we are in the 4th month of the year already? It is so super crazy, I hope you all enjoyed my month of Tea Talks with bloggers, it was so fun to do! Today’s post is going to be a really lovely one I think and I have been planning it for ages so I hope you enjoy it. It is a 15 things I have learnt in 15 years, turning 15 felt like such a big change to me, I actually felt different from this birthday and I feel like 15 is such a great age to be. You are 5 years from 10 and are pretty mature but at the end of the day you are still five years away from 20 so you are still a child and still have time to grow as a person and become a full on proper adult. I feel like, I have learnt so much from all of my personal experiences and I want to share them with you so here we go!
This is also a collab with one of my very good internet friends Mil, she is super gorgeous and lovely and I am so glad that we are finally collabing as her blog is amazing. You should totally go and give her a follow and check out her post!
Mil’s blog: https://onlymilx.wordpress.com
Her post: https://onlymilx.wordpress.com/2018/04/05/8-things-ive-learnt-in-2018/
1. BE YOURSELF.
Being yourself is so important, you are amazing and being you is just so wonderful. And how can you be truly happy if you are faking it to make it. You were born and made the way you are so it is okay to be you and you should never feel like you should have to hide it and pretend to be something your not to impress someone or to ‘fit in’. Being unique is an amazing thing, there is no need to follow the crowd if that’a not you. Be you because being truly yourself is the best version of YOU!
2. All you can do is your best!
Don’t push yourself too hard because at the end of the day, you can only do your best and your best is all people who love and care about you want for you. Don’t feel like just because your friend is getting A*’s that you are not working hard enough, if a C is only your best that is okay. Do’t feel too pressured to make yourself better if that isn’t you because your best is enough and it is okay to not be top of your class or struggling with something because as long as you TRY and keep persevering, that is totally fine! But if you want to push yourself and want to do better that is totally okay too just don’t feel like you have to, do it for you and because you want to better yourself, not to please anyone else.
3. Life is short.
Even though you might feel like your week is dragging or like me that you can not see the end of education in sight because it seems like such a long time away, it actually isn’t. Before you know it, your life goes like a flash so live it to the full. Don’t have too many regrets and be appreciative of people and places around you. Make the most of everyday and live them as if they are your last. Have as many experiences as you can and say YEs more because you might never get that opportunity again.
4. People you love won’t be here forever.
As sad as it is to say it is true, no-one can live forever so spend lots of time with the people you love and care about and make the effort to stay connected with people. Everyone does have super busy lives but just taking 2 minutes out of your day to send a message or ring your Nan or friend who lives in Australia really makes a difference and can brighten their day. And don’t let the sun go down on an argument, tell people you love that you love them and make the most of the time you spend with them.
5. Don’t beat yourself up over little things.
Again it goes back to life is short, if you spend your time worrying over such small things you will miss out on other things and worrying doesn’t change anything. Everything will work out in the end and everyone makes mistakes and you can’t be totally on it all the time. But obviously us humans especially teens beating ourselves up over nothing is very common, I do it so don’t worry if you do beat yourself up it is very normal, but don’t let it stop you from doing things you love and achieving what you want.
6. Self care is important.
You need to look after yourself, it is so important to appreciate yourself and congratulate yourself for working hard. Give yourself a break after a hard day, watch some Netflix, have a hot bubble bath, chill out. It is not being selfish at all to take a bit of time for yourself , it never is, especially if you are stressed or tired. Cancel a night out if you would rather stay home and read a book or write some blog posts aha! Don’t put yourself in an uncomfortable position if you don’t have to and don’t feel bad for doing things for YOU!
7. You have to love yourself, before you can love others.
This kind of goes along with the self care one, learning to love yourself is something that everyone should try and achieve self love. You are all amazing people and you should be proud. You can only spread love when you are loving who you are as a person. And receiving love from other people is such a lovely thing and you should take it and give it back but actually make sure you are totally at one with yourself first. I am so glad I have grown up to know this and to know how important this is, this also goes along with tell people that you love that you love them (ooh what a mouthful aha!)
8. Not knowing what you want in life is OK.
As I was growing up, I always felt the pressure to know what I wanted to do and now especially as I am approaching my GCSE’s that is practically all the teachers talk about, our future careers and how we will get there. It can get so overwhelming and horrible if you have no idea. It is not fair for people to put so much pressure , it is so so okay not to know. Life will play out exactly how it is meant to want to and destiny will give you a path to follow. Anyway, there is still lots of time to figure it out while you are still young.
9. Cut toxic people out of your life
It goes back to life is short, why waste your time on all the toxic people in your life who are putting you down. Stick to all the positive people in your life, they are lovely and there for you so be appreciative of them. Be the bigger person and do whats right for you and what will make you happy and you will gravitate towards other lovely positive people, don’t be scared to let go if those people feel like a comfort blanket, if they are horrible they are not worth it, move on to bigger and better things!
10. You don’t need to be in a relationship to be happy
Nothing wrong with being single at all, I know it can feel rubbish when all your friends or just the people who are around you are in relationships and look all cute and lovely but that doesn’t mean you have to go out and find the love of your life. Be happy being single, being in a relationship should be the least of your worries you have time to find the one and you don’t need to force it. From a single gals perpsective I love it but would love a relationship in the future!
11. Remember your self worth
You are worth so so much and you deserve to be treated well because you are a great person, don’t ever forget that and I know from personal experiences it is so easy to forget your self worth and let yourself be treated badly. But even if this happens a few times that’s okay, just some recognition for how much you are worth and that is so much more than the people or situation you are in.
12. Grades don’t define you or make you a better person
At the end of the day they are just letters on paper, I know that we all worry me included but you don’t need to have all A’s to be a good or a better person and getting low grades doesn’t define you either. The system is bad in making us feel all the pressure, it goes back to all you can do is your best, everything will turn out okay.
13. Don’t compare yourself to others
I know this is so hard not to do, there is always that slight bit of competition to be better or to have the lastest iphone or to feel bad or sad because us humans do like to compare and that for us to strive to do better or to change things. Trust me, it is totally good and okay to carry on being you, change is for you, if you spend your whole life comparing yourself to other you will msis out on all the really great things about you and what makes you YOU and different to them.
14. Do what you want to do, life your life for you not to please others
Again, it might seem selfish, but it isn’t and it all comes down to happiness and your own personal happiness. If you want to go and travel the world but your friends don’t, don’t think you shouldn’t go if they are not. if you want to do it, do it! I know it can seem scary but you own your life so do what you want. You will never be able to please everyone or to be liked by everyone but thats okay that is just how the world works, take every change you get and live your life to the full for you.
15. Raise others up and you will raise yourself
We all have the power to crush or create someone, use your positive powers to create someone, help the people around you out, show someone how much you care. It will make you feel better in the long run, it can feel amazing to have changed someones life or to have just made a little impact that thye will always remeber. I know everyone who reads my blog are incredible people and we can all raise other incredible people!
So that is that for today’s post, thaknks so much for reading. I hope you all took positive and inspirational messages out of it. Belive in yourself, you are amazing, strive for what you want and be YOU because that is the best version. We all can make a difference and I hope I have with this blog post.
Have a great rest of your week and keep smiling my lovelies!