Hey everyone, ♡
Hope you are all doing really well, I am currently writing this in a swelteringly hot bedroom, it is currently the UK’s annual heatwave and as much as I want to be, I am not good in British heat and having lessons and mocks has been so draining and awful, so I am so glad it is over. Today’s post is going to be all about being a quiet person and always being told to speak up and feeling like it is a bad thing not to be so confident and to contribute to discussions. I hope you enjoy the post, it means so much you are taking the time out of your day to read this post!
What inspired me to do this post was a personal experience that I had a few months ago. I was at parents evening and literally every teacher who talked to my parents said I was nice, hardworking etc but then there was always the fact that they added at the end ‘ it would be good if Eden would answer questions more’ ‘it would be lovely to see her contribute more in lessons’ ‘it would be great if Eden would speak up’. So suddenly it all clicked in my head that they see me being quiet and writing things down and not speaking up and putting my hand up as a bad thing. When actually now I want to stand up and say it is OK, I am a good student, I don’t cause trouble and I just get on with it, I contribute when I know the answer and no one should ever feel pressured to speak up or be a louder person.My friends and family will tell you that I can be loud and confident, I am like that when I am around people that I trust and am totally comfortable around, I just don’t feel that in school, maybe in a way I choose to take the easier route but I don’t want to add to the conversation or answer the question and sometimes I don’t have things to say. I love to listen to people, take all the information in and then help people at the end. I know sometimes I can be a bit loud over my friends when trying to get my point in, but again it goes back to the fact that it is okay to be quiet, sometimes I feel like I am two totally different people in two totally different situations. But in the lessons I feel most confident and happy in I do contribute, I just don’t want the whole class to be silent and me just talking as that is the worst to me, everyone focused on me.Would any situation work if everyone was constantly trying to talk over each other and butt in? No. But on the other hand would any situation work in the whole place is silent and it is just kind of awkward as there is no noise? No. Like everything in life, this kind of thing has to have balance, we need some people who are confident and will always contribute because they are never scared to do so and we need some people like me, loud sometimes and quiet sometimes, I only contribute when I want to and only if I feel comfortable. And then there are people who are quiet all the time and just want to listen and don;t want to contribute at all and that is so totally okay. Let’s all just be us, be who we are and not feel guilty for that because that is the beauty of living in this world everyone is different and special in their own ways and that is so so so LOVELY!
It goes back to the fact of any of us conform to what is expected of us? Some of us are ridiculed for being disruptive, too loud or silly and others too quiet, serious and timid. Can we ever win, will society ever give us a break from the pressures of be like this or be like this and I would have to say no. We are always going to feel like we don’t fit into a perfect shape of what we believe or have been told we should be and the media doesn’t help this. And even for me, I am always going after what I don’t have thinking it will make me more likeable or more respected: more confidence, don’t care what anyone thinks, smaller feet, curvier body. When in actual fact, it won’t change anything, I want to use my platform to say let’s all be happy with who we are and grateful for what we have. We spend way much time wanting to change and being sad because we don’t have things or look a certain way rather than living and what a waste.
Trust me, I know how hard it is to try and forget these things, but at the end of the day don’t let them stop you from doing what you want and achieving your dreams because one day, we will all be old and have a different outlook on life and regret how much time we spent worrying.So let’s end this post on a high note, me being too quiet and anyone else reading this who feels they are too quiet, you are not, you are YOU and that is the best that you can be! Anyone reading this who feels they are too loud, you are YOU and your not, everyone reading this be proud of who you are because I know everyone who reads this is amazing and that without you, I would never even feel able to write a post like this. Let’s all stand together and be proud of who we are and not so easily conform to what is expected of us! Don’t change for anyone else but yourself because then it is not for you and won’t make you happy, only change for you if it will make you happier.
Thanks so much for reading this post, you are all AMAZING!
Lots of love,Eden xx