Why it’s Okay to not know what you want to Do! ♡

Hey everyone,

Happy November and Saturday! If you don’t follow my Instagram (which you should if you don’t btw: @everythingedenx) you probably are so confused and are like Eden, where was your post on Thursday, why is it Saturday etc? Well, I have decided to change my upload day to every Saturday at 11AM GMT just as I want a change and I feel like it is better for me to manage my blog alongside school work and more people are active so they can read it more easily if they want to. I hope that is okay with all of you, thanks so much for understanding.

Today’s post is going to be one about why it is okay to not know what you want to do, whether that is in general in life, your career etc. Why you don’t have to have this massive list of extravagant life goals and know exactly how your life is going to pan out over the next 10 years. I really hope you enjoy and I would love your responses to the post in the comments!

So, I feel like even at a young age, it was always ‘Ooh what do you want to be when you are older?’ ‘What’s your dream job?’. I mean we are talking about  5 and 6 year olds here, dreaming of being a fairytale princess in a tall castle and marrying Prince Charming. I am pretty sure my answers changed every time: nurse, hairdresser, actor, teacher etc. It is just the fact that this whole thing sticks to me is that, it was even a big deal in our lives in early primary school when we couldn’t even recite the times tables or spell difficulty. I just wonder why, why is our career such a big deal, why does it surround our lives like a massive bubble? Why do we HAVE to want to be a lawyer, a doctor, a teacher? Why do we have to know at all? At the age of 6, little Eden still had so much more living to do, enjoying being an innocent little kid, she didn’t need to be thinking about that yet it was the most popular topic of conversation on the playground.

Even in Year 9, choosing my options, I felt bad for not knowing what I wanted to do. Everyone around me knew what subjects they needed to get where they wanted to go. I just felt like this whole thing was stupid. Me making big decisions at 14 years old, what if I chose the wrong ones, what if it has a big impact on my life in the future? Why are all the teachers asking me to attend career evenings and advising me on what Unis would like.

Now I realise looking back, there is so much pressure from such a young age to have all these plans, to have this amazing career in mind. You will be this respected, high above person that everyone smiles at when you tell them about your career because that is what everyone asks right? Well let’s stop that, let’s stop defining people on what their career is or if they are in between careers or want to go back to school or change their minds. You can have the best job in the world in others view but you could be the unhappiest person doing that. Let’s let kids live their lives, make sure they understand that it is okay to just see where life takes you and that you will support them whatever. I am not saying that I have been put under pressure from family because I haven’t, I just mean in general, society in general. 

Even life in general, I feel like everyone around you expects you to do things at a fast pace or even their lives seem to be better or just moving in what you see as a better direction than yours. Like if you tell someone you have done your GCSEs, you get ooh what’s next. Sixth form? College? Work?. If you are 18 ish, so what Unis have you applied for? What subject are you doing? Where are you going to study? If you tell them you are in a new relationship, when is the engagement? When are you having kids? Are you looking at moving in together? It’s like, sorry luv but it is my life not yours, thanks for being excited for me and everything but I will go at my own pace and it is just for me to do, not you to decide or tell me what I have to do. It’s okay to not go to Uni, to take things slow, to not wanna meet someone and get married asap.

Anyway, to end this post. Do you, do what is right for you. Let your life take you whenever it wants to go. Have the best time and live  it to the full. If you don’t know what to do, don’t worry about it. You have so much option, you can change your plans and at the end of the day it doesn’t matter if you are a lawyer in a top firm or not, if you enjoy our job and you are fulfilled, go with that. Everything is okay, enjoy it!

Thank you so much for reading, you have no idea how much it means to me. I hope you did enjoy this post, I love using my platform in a positive way and writing posts similar to these. Chatty and real life, have the best day! Keep smiling!

Lots of love,

Eden xx

22 Comments

  1. November 3, 2018 / 2:51 pm

    Great post! There’s so much pressure especially at school to know exactly what career you’re going to do and basically your entire life plan! But it really doesn’t matter if you don’t know yet, I’d rather just see what happens and learn more about what I enjoy! It’s honestly totally okay to not know what you want to do and this message needs to spread more! 💕

    • everythingedenblogs
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      November 3, 2018 / 2:52 pm

      Totally agree! Thanks so much for your comment xx

  2. November 3, 2018 / 3:31 pm

    I love reading this, and I definitely agree with everything you’ve said! Back in year 8 when I had to choose my GCSE subjects for the following year, I chose mine based on what I would enjoy but the teachers insisted that we picked them based on what career we wanted to do! There definitely is so much pressure for young people to know what they want to do. I feel like you should never completely plan out where you want to be in so many years time because you never know what will happen! You hear of so many adults who go into a job, but then go into a completely different job a few years later. There’s nothing wrong with not knowing what you want to do! I’m guilty of planning ahead, but it definitely is nice to live in the moment and not always think about the future. Apologies for the long comment, kinda got a bit carried away hahah. Have a wonderful weekend!! Xx

    • everythingedenblogs
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      November 3, 2018 / 3:32 pm

      Aw Alex this comment is so fab! Thank you, I’m so glad you agree. Let’s just let everyone live their lives without the added pressure of what to do next. Have the best weekend! Lots of love xxx

  3. November 3, 2018 / 3:43 pm

    This is such an important post to write and share because there will be so many people feeling the same. I felt the same when I picked my A Levels and then when I left, however I stopped stressing myself out about it and it just came to me then. I wrote all about this sorta thing on my blog too all about why I didn’t go to university so I can relate. Great post!
    Alex x
    http://allthingsalexx.wordpress.com

    • everythingedenblogs
      Author
      November 3, 2018 / 3:44 pm

      Thanks so much, I’m so glad you feel that it is a good post. Means a lot. Totally agree that people should just not have the pressure xx

  4. November 3, 2018 / 5:58 pm

    There is definitely a lot of pressure and I totally agree! Now that GCSE is over and I’m doing A-levels, it feels like GCSEs weren’t important because now it’s the constant pressure to get into uni by doing A-levels. I just started A-levels and I don’t want to think about Uni yet😂 Loved this post as always! x

    • everythingedenblogs
      Author
      November 3, 2018 / 7:19 pm

      Thanks so much and glad you totally agree! Have a lovely evening x

  5. November 3, 2018 / 9:50 pm

    There’s way too much pressure on people to know what they want to do, i was in year 8 when i had to pick my gcse options for the next 3 years and at the age of like 12/13 (however old you are in year 8) is so stupid! I’ve gone through so many stages of not knowing what i want to be, i took media at gcse in year 11 and then pursued it for 3 more years at college and now ive finished education and in a retail job to make ends meet i really dont know what to do with my life and i think i wasted 3 years doing a subject i only did because it was fun and not something that really interested me that much, it’s hard when you’ve had the pressure that you should know what you wanna do and im nearly 20 with no direction of where i want my life to go career wise x

    • everythingedenblogs
      Author
      November 3, 2018 / 9:52 pm

      Totally agree. Really glad you agree with this post and find your direction soon. You will get there Ellie! Xx

  6. November 3, 2018 / 10:30 pm

    I totally agree that there is so much pressure when you’re in school to know what you want to do and follow a certain path etc! None of the options I chose have anything to do with my job now except 1. When I was in sixth form although I didn’t want to go to university I was told I was too clever to just not go and practically forced to apply by my teachers and then I still never went. I’m now in a job that I thought I wanted to do and although I enjoy it I’m not sure I’ll be doing it forever. I’m 23 now and still have no idea of what I’ll be doing for a job in 5 years time so don’t put too much pressure on yourself!

    Jess // foundationsandfairytales.wordpress.com
    xx

    • everythingedenblogs
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      November 3, 2018 / 10:33 pm

      I love this comment, so lovely to hear your perspective and thanks so much for commenting means a lot and I totally agree! Xx

  7. November 4, 2018 / 2:41 pm

    I coudn’t agree more with this! I think we were pressured into choosing our career path way too early. I chose to study French, Art and Music at GCSE, with little thought into what my future would hold. Now here I am, still learning French, however I completely regret the other two options. While I enjoyed them, they offer me little career prospects/have little value in terms of what I would like to achieve in the future. But we shouldn’t worry too much like you say, life has a way of surprising us so who knows what will happen! Great post 💜

    Evie x || https://eviejayne.co.uk

    • everythingedenblogs
      Author
      November 4, 2018 / 3:28 pm

      Yes exactly. Thanks so much, good luck for the future! Xx

  8. November 4, 2018 / 6:41 pm

    I love this post and totally relate. My answer to the ‘what do you want to do?’ question always changed too and to think day I’m still not set on one career. A brilliant topic to cover!

    Soph – https://sophhearts.com x

    • everythingedenblogs
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      November 4, 2018 / 6:49 pm

      Thanks so much Soph, means a lot! X

  9. November 4, 2018 / 7:50 pm

    I loved reading this! At 7 when I was asked that question, I knew exactly what I wanted to do. And at 17 my answer was the same. It wasn’t until a month before my UCAS application was due that I realised I didn’t know what I wanted to do any more and it was awful. I felt like every option I’d ever taken and all I’d ever known just disappeared. I honestly think that not figuring it out until later is a blessing! x

    Sophie
    http://www.glowsteady.co.uk

    • everythingedenblogs
      Author
      November 4, 2018 / 7:51 pm

      So lovely to hear your perspective. Thanks so much for your comment x

  10. November 6, 2018 / 10:13 am

    There really is so much pressure from a young age to “know” what you want to do. By year 9 we’re being asked to pick subjects to do for GCSE which might help us in the future. Year 9 and we’re only what, 15 years old? Even now at 26 I still don’t know!

    • everythingedenblogs
      Author
      November 6, 2018 / 3:34 pm

      Yes exactly! So glad you agree! X

  11. November 6, 2018 / 11:08 am

    I really really love this, as i can relate so much you don’t even know. The question ‘what do you want to do?’ has plagued me these past few years as I’ve come out of high school and had to choose if i wanted to go to uni or not. The fact that i had to choose one course/one interest/ one career really stressed me out and it still does. The pressure put onto young people, even 18 years olds is honestly ridiculous and I can say that it has definitely impacted me. I’m actually going to write a blog post surrounding this topic soon, as i think i need a place to rant about my feelings/fears etc. Thanks for posting this xx

    • everythingedenblogs
      Author
      November 6, 2018 / 3:35 pm

      Thanks so much so glad you could relate. It literally is ridiculous! So excited for your post let me know when it goes up xx

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