Happy November and Saturday! If you don’t follow my Instagram (which you should if you don’t btw: @everythingedenx) you probably are so confused and are like Eden, where was your post on Thursday, why is it Saturday etc? Well, I have decided to change my upload day to every Saturday at 11AM GMT just as I want a change and I feel like it is better for me to manage my blog alongside school work and more people are active so they can read it more easily if they want to. I hope that is okay with all of you, thanks so much for understanding.
Today’s post is going to be one about why it is okay to not know what you want to do, whether that is in general in life, your career etc. Why you don’t have to have this massive list of extravagant life goals and know exactly how your life is going to pan out over the next 10 years. I really hope you enjoy and I would love your responses to the post in the comments!
So, I feel like even at a young age, it was always ‘Ooh what do you want to be when you are older?’ ‘What’s your dream job?’. I mean we are talking about 5 and 6 year olds here, dreaming of being a fairytale princess in a tall castle and marrying Prince Charming. I am pretty sure my answers changed every time: nurse, hairdresser, actor, teacher etc. It is just the fact that this whole thing sticks to me is that, it was even a big deal in our lives in early primary school when we couldn’t even recite the times tables or spell difficulty. I just wonder why, why is our career such a big deal, why does it surround our lives like a massive bubble? Why do we HAVE to want to be a lawyer, a doctor, a teacher? Why do we have to know at all? At the age of 6, little Eden still had so much more living to do, enjoying being an innocent little kid, she didn’t need to be thinking about that yet it was the most popular topic of conversation on the playground.
Even in Year 9, choosing my options, I felt bad for not knowing what I wanted to do. Everyone around me knew what subjects they needed to get where they wanted to go. I just felt like this whole thing was stupid. Me making big decisions at 14 years old, what if I chose the wrong ones, what if it has a big impact on my life in the future? Why are all the teachers asking me to attend career evenings and advising me on what Unis would like.
Now I realise looking back, there is so much pressure from such a young age to have all these plans, to have this amazing career in mind. You will be this respected, high above person that everyone smiles at when you tell them about your career because that is what everyone asks right? Well let’s stop that, let’s stop defining people on what their career is or if they are in between careers or want to go back to school or change their minds. You can have the best job in the world in others view but you could be the unhappiest person doing that. Let’s let kids live their lives, make sure they understand that it is okay to just see where life takes you and that you will support them whatever. I am not saying that I have been put under pressure from family because I haven’t, I just mean in general, society in general.
Even life in general, I feel like everyone around you expects you to do things at a fast pace or even their lives seem to be better or just moving in what you see as a better direction than yours. Like if you tell someone you have done your GCSEs, you get ooh what’s next. Sixth form? College? Work?. If you are 18 ish, so what Unis have you applied for? What subject are you doing? Where are you going to study? If you tell them you are in a new relationship, when is the engagement? When are you having kids? Are you looking at moving in together? It’s like, sorry luv but it is my life not yours, thanks for being excited for me and everything but I will go at my own pace and it is just for me to do, not you to decide or tell me what I have to do. It’s okay to not go to Uni, to take things slow, to not wanna meet someone and get married asap.
Anyway, to end this post. Do you, do what is right for you. Let your life take you whenever it wants to go. Have the best time and live it to the full. If you don’t know what to do, don’t worry about it. You have so much option, you can change your plans and at the end of the day it doesn’t matter if you are a lawyer in a top firm or not, if you enjoy our job and you are fulfilled, go with that. Everything is okay, enjoy it!
Thank you so much for reading, you have no idea how much it means to me. I hope you did enjoy this post, I love using my platform in a positive way and writing posts similar to these. Chatty and real life, have the best day! Keep smiling!
Lots of love,